Ready to Change a Little Bit of ME for Nate & I.

Ok so it's time to face my little issues. First of all I work 3 days out of the WHOLE week! It's a little bit of a love-hate relationship.... I think that people in my position would dream of only working 3 days and having 4 off but still being full time. Anyways I love it, but on those 3 days off I tend to go CRAZY. I don't love the way I feel when I'm at home by myself with only a few things to do around the apartment.... I can actually feel myself going into a dark hole (depression). I cry, and I get angry easily, and I tell myself things that are negative. I can feel it starting to slowly ruin our newlywed relationship ALREADY :(. 


STEP #1:  
To start off on helping myself get better.... I had Nate change my password on Facebook and so I can't log in anymore. I am already loving the feeling of just focusing on Nate and I. I really realized that when I was on Facebook I was always looking at other relationships and wondering why ours couldn't be like theirs. Sad. I know. I am realizing that Nate & I's relationship is SO SPECIAL and that I LOVE HIM MORE THAN ANYTHING, and that I don't need Facebook to ruin our love. I'm definitely not saying that Facebook is a bad thing, but it was for ME, and for OUR marriage which to me is so much more important than keeping up with my friends daily lives. :) 


STEP #2:
Nate and I came up with a 'Ten Minute Rule' that means that when ever we get into an argument or when we get impatient with each other we only have 10 minutes to be upset and then we HAVE to go and KISS and HUG each other. I can already feel the pinky promise we made just last night to use this rule come into effect and I LOVE it! (I am even printing it off today and putting it in a frame to hang in our room. I'll have to put a picture up ASAP:)) Just a side note: Nate is so tough in our marriage... and I am so grateful that he is so patient with me! I LOVE THIS BOY! :)  


STEP #3: 
This morning after my work meeting I had a feeling that I should go and get this book at Target, I had glanced at it before and just thought that it was nice, and quickly put it back on the shelf. But today as I was driving from my work meeting I couldn't stop myself from going in to Target and getting this book. As I picked it up I thought: what am I doing? Our Marriage isn't in turmoil we aren't getting a divorce... we don't need this. Well I couldn't ignore the feelings that hit me right there to go to the cash register and buy it right then. I bought it and took it home and just thought that I should go and put it on a shelf in the closet until we really needed it. Then I walked into our apartment and with out hesitation I grabbed it and shared it with Nate. He was surprisingly open to it and we started the book today:). 

Day #1

CHALLENGE #1:
To be patient and to not say ANYTHING negative at all to one another. We then have to check it off in our book tonight and reflect on it by writing our feelings in the book. This has already been a challenge for me. Sadly i'll admit i'm not the most patient person, but already I can feel it working in our home.... our words of frustration are turning into words of gratitude... we are helping each other out more, and we have told each other we love each other at least 50 times today already.... I'm already loving this book! :) I can't wait for tomorrows challenge.